10 Reasons Friends Are Bae

Warning: There’s some major love in this post. It will get ovary-tly mushy.

2005 I moved to Bangalore in the name of love. During the time, my heart quite tragically got broken into a million tiny pieces (sprinkle-like) and got pieced back together by a bunch of girls and boys. Fast forward 12 years, these peeps are still my go-to-squad and one of them actually signed up to be my husband *blush*.

We all met in college. One huge crazy gang that are friends-for-life-type-thick yet delicate enough to shatter like your grandma’s china set. Good thing for us, college taught us well in the art of using Fevicol. Broken pieces can be mended.

Each one of them are so so special to me and most times when I think of them I want to give them an imaginary pappi. I love how together or individually we’ve shared a library full of moments and tonnes of secrets over phone calls and beers. In these last few years we’ll all grown up in each other’s company and witnessed heartbreaks and marriages, baby bumps and added kilos, and a truckload of rants. Fortunately some of us get to laugh together, party together and patiently wait together for the next time our squad meets up, which is exactly a month away from today for Lekha’s bachelorette *woohoo*.

I thank my stars that I live the in the same city as some of my closest & bestest friends, because I’d be a lost kitten if it weren’t for them. I also wish that I got to see the rest of the gang more often, because each time I’m around them, they fill up my heart with so much bubbling love that it makes me sad that we can’t consume each other’s live everyday single day. And if having a LDR with them isn’t enough, I have to do it with the hubby too, which sucks astronomically.The last time we all got together was in December for my wedding, which now seems like a lifetime ago.

I’m having major withdrawals from them all, so I’m going to list down 10 reasons friends are bae.

  1. Good, bad or ugly, whichever form you present yourself in, they’ll still acknowledge your presence and if you’re lucky they might show a little love and hug you too. They genuinely love you for who you are.
  2. They leave work early and skip meetings, just so that we can all talk about the same shit we spoke about in the morning over a couple of beers. They know their priorities include you. 
  3. When you need your hair pulled back when you’re puking your life out or your lehenga held up when you need to confirm all pee is out of your body, they’re the ones to help you. A friend in need is a friend indeed. 
  4. When you answer your calls at 2am because you have friends who love drunk-dialling or when you listen to her repeat the same heart break story even after 12 years. They have the patience of monk waiting for Nirvana. 
  5. Sometimes when the shit gets real bad, you share the tears and get into the mood with your bestie, even if you were Ms. Sunshine before she started crying. You share the emotions because you feel ’em too.
  6. They keep your secrets like they’re guarding top NASA secrets. Only because you’re so special. Admittedly, at some point most of us have been guilty of sharing other’s secrets, but what stays in the group, stays in the group. You’re worth keeping secrets for even though it’s killing me inside. 
  7. They finish your sentences and know exactly what you’re thinking even before you say it. That’s because we’ve tuned our minds to think differently but also acknowledge each other’s thoughts on cue. They know you so well.
  8. We can be real-ass bitches but when it comes to each other, our hearts melt like butter. Also, know that if you mess with one of us, you’re dealing with all of us. FYI some of us lift heavy weights and have medals in state level shooting. We got each other’s back.
  9. They’re really kickass people who have done some amazing things in life and each one is just so bloody talented and grounded. My everyday inspiration comes from this bunch of people. They don’t even know it. They’re genuinely amazing people who make the world a better place.
  10. When you’re miles away from family you tend to make people your own. They became just as important as family do, sometimes even more important. They adopt you. These peeps become your world.

Friends *sigh*.

Note: This picture is one of my favourites from my wedding only because it reminds me of how weirdly quirky my girls are. Picture courtesy thanks to Pinku who is all kinds of fabulous and talented (college topper + state level shooter + ace mehendi designer). I last spoke about her here.

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What To Watch on Netflix India. Grab Your Popcorn.

I’m a huuuge TV show junkie and have been known to skip a Friday night out with friends, just so that I can cuddle up in bed to watch Netflix and chill. Thrillers, rom coms, law & order, documentaries- I’ve seen ’em all. I’m pretty much obsessive about some shows and I think I need to prescribe a healthy dose of episodes before I OD on Netflix. Anyhoo, because I still have to wait another four whole months before GOT Season 7 *screams*, I’m keeping myself occupied with some pretty dope shows on Netflix and more. I’m picking my top 5  TV shows (apart from Stranger Things, Narcos and How to Get Away With Murder) that I think you must watch.

Designated SurvivorDesignated Survivor Netflix India

If you’re having withdrawals from House of Cards, then Designated Survivor is pretty good to fill up your political drama slot. Filled with suspense and drama (duh!) the show is about cabinet member Tom Kirkman (Kiefer Sutherland) and his succession to becoming the President of the United States of America purely based on being a “designated survivor” and not on his merits, which get questioned along his first few days in the White House. The episodes reveal a man who is unsure yet strong-willed to win the heart of his people. Season 1 was good and I did binge-watch the episodes in hope of a huge twist, but that didn’t happen. Bummer. However, this show is promising and I’m eagerly waiting for Season 2.

TrappedTrapped Netflix India

Halló! I’m not sure what exactly got me watching an Icelandic TV show, but I absolutely loved it. Filled with crime, suspense and wintry scenes this series kicks off with a Police Chief Andri Ólafsson (who is so cuddly) investigating a dismembered body. A storm, avalanche and devious captain of a cruise ship add to the drama as the story unfolds *bites nails*. I really enjoyed the first season, however because I of course don’t know Icelandic (which sounds cool), I really have to focus on the subtitles. So I watch this show when I’m in the mood for some serious-attention-required-crime-drama-story. Also, after watching this show, I’ve put Iceland of my list of places to visit.

Santa Clarita Diet

Santa Clarita Diet Netflix India

I’ve loved Drew Barrymore since like ET and couldn’t wait to get watching Santa Clarita Diet! I think I was expecting a very very different story, so you can imagine how shocked I was with all the puking and blood and puking and blood. I wasn’t quite sure if I’d make it to episode 2, however, I have a good tolerance for all things gross and dived right into the next few episodes which are fuelled by cannibalism. The show is filled with tonnes of humour and a whole new outlook to a suburban couple dealing with what would have been a mid-life crisis. Also, the show left us hanging, so season 2 will be watched. Hope you’ll find it enough to digest *snickers*.

Ok, I’m going to be a little a naughty and stray off Netflix. I just have to because I’m obsessed with these TV shows and can’t possibly not tell the universe about it.

RiverdaleRiverdale

OMG! I absolutely-freaking-love-it when they do a dark version of my/yours/ours favourite childhood stories. Doing one of Archies and his friends was a brilliant idea, especially when its a thriller! The series starts off with the tragic death of heartthrob and star quarter back Jason Blossom which leads to the slow yet captivating disclose of Archie and the gang and some very deadly twists. BTW I’m in love with Jughead’s character- it’s so full of angst and mystery. And after the last episode, I’m dying of suspense.

Big Little LiesBig Little Lies

Bros, this is seriously the best thing that happened all of 2017 on TV. This show is like the bazooka of all dramas this season. And when you have Reese Witherspoon, Shailenne Woodley and Nicole Kidman on the cast role, you’re obviously in for a good show. The drama, the mystery, the banter, the murder- its all got the making of a perfect crime drama story. I’m so so glad this wasn’t a movie and instead fed to us in doses of 60 minutes of absolute fixation.  Also, I just found out that this series is based on a book by Lian Moriarty *gasp*. Should I read or watch or both? What to do? HELP!

And, that’s my mini round-up! Do tell which shows you’re binging on. Next on my list is Greenleaf.

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Beauty Notes: A is for Applicator

Guys, I’m starting a brand new series on the blog called the “Beauty Notes” which will literally take you through the A to Z of all things beauty. I’m sups excited!

From products to ingredients to basic makeup jargon, consider this my very own version of “beauty for dummies”. Just a little note before I introduce A- I’m no where close to being a beauty guru or anything of the sort, however the world of beauty quite intrigues me and hey, who doesn’t want to master the art of makeup.

Psst… I doubt I’ll be joining Alicia Keys’ #NoMakeup movement anytime soon. Ok, let’s start now.

A is for applicator

What it does?
The applicator is basically a puff or sponge that is used to to apply makeup (mostly liquid) to your pretty face. It could be round, triangle or dew shaped. Also, it comes in all sizes. In this case, the smaller the better *wink*.

Best buy
So far the most popular kid on the block has been the Beautyblender that’s known to do an ace job at applying your foundation and concealer flawlessly (no more cake face here). However, there’s a new kid called Silisponge who promises to do the same thing without wasting your precious product. Not too sure if I’m ready to hangout with the new kid just yet.

How to use it
Applicators are easy to use. No special skill sets required here. Just wet the sponge a little, apply some foundation/concealer to the back of your hand or spot it onto your face and then use the applicator to dab (read: not wipe) the product flawlessly onto your face. The trick here being blend, blend and blend some more till you get a perfect coverage. And there you have it. So easy, na?

What I think
Umm… just to let you know, there are a tonne of dupes available out there which are cheaper and still get the job done. I don’t mind using those either because I’m not too keen on using the same sponge over and over despite giving it a good wash. This way, neither my heart or piggy bank break each time I throw out a sponge. And bros, whatever anyone says, sponges can’t have a shelf life longer than two months. Period.

BTW brushes count as applicators too, but since that’s quite a huge topic to cover you’ll find it in next week’s B is for brushes.

Let me know if you think of the new series. Happy weekend folks!

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Bridal Notes: Five Fabulous Jutti Brands from India

These are my wedding juttis that still make my heart do somersaults. The picture was taken by my ace wedding photographers Pixelena Studio. Such talented folks they are.

From wedding hashtags to whether the drapes should be rani pink or fuchsia pink, brides are bombarded with canon-like decisions and questions. Most times, you’d wish people would just shut up and move along, but of course being the bride, you’re slightly obsessive about anything that has to do with your big day (mercy to poor soul who asked), so any decision must be approved and tick-marked by you. While there’s a wedding hashtag generator *lol* available for you to use, other decisions toh you’ll have to either say haan ke naa to. Trust me, it gets easier and post shaadi your decision-making skills could get you a spot on TEDx.

Judge me if you want, but I recall messaging my bestie Nattu (remember her shaadi) and asking her whether I should wear heels or juttis. It did give me one sleepless night, however I had my eureka moment and the mind kicked away the heart’s love for a pair of gorgeous heels and instead urged me to opt for juttis. The reasons listed below.

1) I’m like bambi on ice when I wear heals. Not half as cute tho.
2) I wouldn’t have enjoyed my own shaadi which would have been dreadful, if my feet were sending me pain signals.
3) I’ve got fairly decent height to make others feel tiny.

So khussas/juttis it is, buuuuut where to find ’em?

When you live in Bengaluru and don’t have the courage to spend minimum 2 hour of your precious single life in traffic to go hunting for juttis, then you say hello to online shopping. Also, all the best jutti brands are mostly online.

My top picks in no particular order.

Coral Haze

coral haze gold dust jutti

I bought my engagement juttis from here. I picked a pair of ornate gold juttis which are neutral and festive enough to wear with most indian wear. Also, the design is pretty timeless which is perfect since I believe in future planning and all. Also, who wouldn’t fall for a pair of juttis called “Gold Dust”. While the design range is superb, I like how they go the extra mile by informing you how exactly to care for your juttis. Find out here.

Also, check out their casual collection which I think is perfect for any mehendi function or just to add a little whimsy to your jeans and tee look. I lurv the buggy ride ones.

NeedleDustneedledust twilight jutti

If you’re looking to give your outfit a hint of fun on the big day, then my vote goes to NeedleDust for their adorable-meets-gorgeous juttis which have carnivals, cityscapes and chattris on them. Though the collection is comparably smaller, they’ve focused on unique designs which are a bonus any day. Quality over quantity, doston.

My absolute favourite is the “Twilight” pair that sets the perfect mood for any shaadi with its havelis and jharokhas that are beautifully embroidered in gold zari. And… they have the cutest collection of tiny juttis for the little divas-in-making.

Pastels and Pop

I’ve had my eyes on this particular pair of juttis for forever now. Psst… it’s my birthday month. Someone, anyone?

I my opinion (which could matter), I think their juttis hits the sweet spot between modern and traditional. The collection goes superbly well with tunics, jeans and kurtas alike. I’ve got eyes set on the pompom ones and also this cute “Sweetheart” pair. Predominantly, I think their whole range is perfect for the sister-of-bride and bridesmaids. Just saying.

Juttichoo

With a name like that, you’ve already got my attention. Juttichoo has a good range of juttis that’ll do for most events on your social calendar. You can opt for some modern birdy prints ones or indulge in their gorgeous diamante embellished juttis. I’m pretty kicked about the florals ones which would look kickass under palazzos and a plain kurta. My other absolute favourite is this cute “Pop Parade” pair that has these embroidered dabka puppet horses. Too cute!

Also, if it matters, celebs have been adding Juttichoos next to their Jimmy Choos. Check it out.

Fizzy Goblet

And if all other juttis don’t make the cut for you, then maybe Fizzy Goblet’s latest offering might foster some love from you. Just when you thought juttis were becoming a copy-paste, they revealed the sneaker-jutti hybrid *applause*. I think “Honey Bee Denim Sneakers” almost melted my heart. And the whole khandaan can shop here cause they cater to babies and men too. I actually think the men’s ikat juttis are quite kickass. I wish P wore juttis.

I hope all you girls & boys find this post a little helpful. Next time someone asks me where to get juttis from, I’m just gonna share this link. Ok, bye.

 

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Being Equal

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Pussy power. Women against Trump. Women against honour killings. Women against double standards. Women against the douchebags who tried to grope them. Women against abuse. Sounds all too familiar, eh?

Unfortunately, this doesn’t even address the bigger picture. Every time these words make it to the headlines, I’m sure you’ve envisioned a squad of women protesting for their fundamental rights. What you might have not thought of, is that women have been fighting the world even before we were born. Often fighting for our lives even before our first breath is stolen from us. Only because we have a pussy.

Does  it bother you I say “pussy”? Well, you’d be a dick if it did.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not on a boy-bashing rant here. I have no right to advocate against men. Why would I? I’ve been brought up by a father who treats me just like my brothers, which means, I got my right to a kickass education, I got the opportunity to dictate my own life and every time I switch on the water works, I’m firmly reminded that one should be more thick-skinned. Lucky for me, I wasn’t asked to forgo an education or sign up for the shaadi bootcamp after turning a ripe 23. Instead, I was empowered by him to live the best life I possibly can and also to give back. Thank you papa.

Being a woman, it’s inherent that I would side with my own sex. The goddesses. I’m fast to judge when “they” think the fairness of her skin equates #marriagegoals or when the perfectly round chapati puts her in the winning for the “Best Bahu 2017” or when her paycheque goes to his bank account and not hers- however you call her self sufficient and independent because she works TOO *slow clap*.

It’s not men who are the necessary evil. It’s our own society. The next door uncle who can’t handle the number of male friends entering your apartment, the girl who shammed you before your college jury by calling you “fat”, the tutor who thought you were too naive and grazed his hand up your skirt or the corporate bitch who dissed out the stay-at-home mum. Yet, from the uncle to the corporate bitch, we all advocate for “the future is female”. Have we understood what we’re fighting for? Do women understand that its more than just adding a #whoruntheworld hashtag to their post? Do men understand that it’s not a race between men and women, instead it’s a plight to empower every living soul, human being, cat and little goldfish in our society to have equal rights?

Equal. Same to same. Got that?

 

Disclaimer: These are my own thoughts. Comment down below because I’m always up for a good conversation. Heated or not. Also, happy women’s day!

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