10 Reasons Friends Are Bae

Warning: There’s some major love in this post. It will get ovary-tly mushy.

2005 I moved to Bangalore in the name of love. During the time, my heart quite tragically got broken into a million tiny pieces (sprinkle-like) and got pieced back together by a bunch of girls and boys. Fast forward 12 years, these peeps are still my go-to-squad and one of them actually signed up to be my husband *blush*.

We all met in college. One huge crazy gang that are friends-for-life-type-thick yet delicate enough to shatter like your grandma’s china set. Good thing for us, college taught us well in the art of using Fevicol. Broken pieces can be mended.

Each one of them are so so special to me and most times when I think of them I want to give them an imaginary pappi. I love how together or individually we’ve shared a library full of moments and tonnes of secrets over phone calls and beers. In these last few years we’ll all grown up in each other’s company and witnessed heartbreaks and marriages, baby bumps and added kilos, and a truckload of rants. Fortunately some of us get to laugh together, party together and patiently wait together for the next time our squad meets up, which is exactly a month away from today for Lekha’s bachelorette *woohoo*.

I thank my stars that I live the in the same city as some of my closest & bestest friends, because I’d be a lost kitten if it weren’t for them. I also wish that I got to see the rest of the gang more often, because each time I’m around them, they fill up my heart with so much bubbling love that it makes me sad that we can’t consume each other’s live everyday single day. And if having a LDR with them isn’t enough, I have to do it with the hubby too, which sucks astronomically.The last time we all got together was in December for my wedding, which now seems like a lifetime ago.

I’m having major withdrawals from them all, so I’m going to list down 10 reasons friends are bae.

  1. Good, bad or ugly, whichever form you present yourself in, they’ll still acknowledge your presence and if you’re lucky they might show a little love and hug you too. They genuinely love you for who you are.
  2. They leave work early and skip meetings, just so that we can all talk about the same shit we spoke about in the morning over a couple of beers. They know their priorities include you. 
  3. When you need your hair pulled back when you’re puking your life out or your lehenga held up when you need to confirm all pee is out of your body, they’re the ones to help you. A friend in need is a friend indeed. 
  4. When you answer your calls at 2am because you have friends who love drunk-dialling or when you listen to her repeat the same heart break story even after 12 years. They have the patience of monk waiting for Nirvana. 
  5. Sometimes when the shit gets real bad, you share the tears and get into the mood with your bestie, even if you were Ms. Sunshine before she started crying. You share the emotions because you feel ’em too.
  6. They keep your secrets like they’re guarding top NASA secrets. Only because you’re so special. Admittedly, at some point most of us have been guilty of sharing other’s secrets, but what stays in the group, stays in the group. You’re worth keeping secrets for even though it’s killing me inside. 
  7. They finish your sentences and know exactly what you’re thinking even before you say it. That’s because we’ve tuned our minds to think differently but also acknowledge each other’s thoughts on cue. They know you so well.
  8. We can be real-ass bitches but when it comes to each other, our hearts melt like butter. Also, know that if you mess with one of us, you’re dealing with all of us. FYI some of us lift heavy weights and have medals in state level shooting. We got each other’s back.
  9. They’re really kickass people who have done some amazing things in life and each one is just so bloody talented and grounded. My everyday inspiration comes from this bunch of people. They don’t even know it. They’re genuinely amazing people who make the world a better place.
  10. When you’re miles away from family you tend to make people your own. They became just as important as family do, sometimes even more important. They adopt you. These peeps become your world.

Friends *sigh*.

Note: This picture is one of my favourites from my wedding only because it reminds me of how weirdly quirky my girls are. Picture courtesy thanks to Pinku who is all kinds of fabulous and talented (college topper + state level shooter + ace mehendi designer). I last spoke about her here.

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What To Watch on Netflix India. Grab Your Popcorn.

I’m a huuuge TV show junkie and have been known to skip a Friday night out with friends, just so that I can cuddle up in bed to watch Netflix and chill. Thrillers, rom coms, law & order, documentaries- I’ve seen ’em all. I’m pretty much obsessive about some shows and I think I need to prescribe a healthy dose of episodes before I OD on Netflix. Anyhoo, because I still have to wait another four whole months before GOT Season 7 *screams*, I’m keeping myself occupied with some pretty dope shows on Netflix and more. I’m picking my top 5  TV shows (apart from Stranger Things, Narcos and How to Get Away With Murder) that I think you must watch.

Designated SurvivorDesignated Survivor Netflix India

If you’re having withdrawals from House of Cards, then Designated Survivor is pretty good to fill up your political drama slot. Filled with suspense and drama (duh!) the show is about cabinet member Tom Kirkman (Kiefer Sutherland) and his succession to becoming the President of the United States of America purely based on being a “designated survivor” and not on his merits, which get questioned along his first few days in the White House. The episodes reveal a man who is unsure yet strong-willed to win the heart of his people. Season 1 was good and I did binge-watch the episodes in hope of a huge twist, but that didn’t happen. Bummer. However, this show is promising and I’m eagerly waiting for Season 2.

TrappedTrapped Netflix India

Halló! I’m not sure what exactly got me watching an Icelandic TV show, but I absolutely loved it. Filled with crime, suspense and wintry scenes this series kicks off with a Police Chief Andri Ólafsson (who is so cuddly) investigating a dismembered body. A storm, avalanche and devious captain of a cruise ship add to the drama as the story unfolds *bites nails*. I really enjoyed the first season, however because I of course don’t know Icelandic (which sounds cool), I really have to focus on the subtitles. So I watch this show when I’m in the mood for some serious-attention-required-crime-drama-story. Also, after watching this show, I’ve put Iceland of my list of places to visit.

Santa Clarita Diet

Santa Clarita Diet Netflix India

I’ve loved Drew Barrymore since like ET and couldn’t wait to get watching Santa Clarita Diet! I think I was expecting a very very different story, so you can imagine how shocked I was with all the puking and blood and puking and blood. I wasn’t quite sure if I’d make it to episode 2, however, I have a good tolerance for all things gross and dived right into the next few episodes which are fuelled by cannibalism. The show is filled with tonnes of humour and a whole new outlook to a suburban couple dealing with what would have been a mid-life crisis. Also, the show left us hanging, so season 2 will be watched. Hope you’ll find it enough to digest *snickers*.

Ok, I’m going to be a little a naughty and stray off Netflix. I just have to because I’m obsessed with these TV shows and can’t possibly not tell the universe about it.


OMG! I absolutely-freaking-love-it when they do a dark version of my/yours/ours favourite childhood stories. Doing one of Archies and his friends was a brilliant idea, especially when its a thriller! The series starts off with the tragic death of heartthrob and star quarter back Jason Blossom which leads to the slow yet captivating disclose of Archie and the gang and some very deadly twists. BTW I’m in love with Jughead’s character- it’s so full of angst and mystery. And after the last episode, I’m dying of suspense.

Big Little LiesBig Little Lies

Bros, this is seriously the best thing that happened all of 2017 on TV. This show is like the bazooka of all dramas this season. And when you have Reese Witherspoon, Shailenne Woodley and Nicole Kidman on the cast role, you’re obviously in for a good show. The drama, the mystery, the banter, the murder- its all got the making of a perfect crime drama story. I’m so so glad this wasn’t a movie and instead fed to us in doses of 60 minutes of absolute fixation.  Also, I just found out that this series is based on a book by Lian Moriarty *gasp*. Should I read or watch or both? What to do? HELP!

And, that’s my mini round-up! Do tell which shows you’re binging on. Next on my list is Greenleaf.

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Monday Musings: The Oscars & Legit Mistakes


Last night’s Oscars just made the legit biggest boo-boo mistake ever. Thanks Warren Beatty.

Here’s what happened.

The last three minutes of 89th Academy Awards turned out to be a monumental disaster when Warren Beatty and Faye Dunaway mistakenly gave the Best Picture award to La La Land instead of Moonlight. The memes, jokes, racism rants and what-not have already begun flooding our feeds and honestly, some are quite hilarious *cheeky smile*. I’m sure the La La Land crew feel bitter and embarrassed, but this screw-up is quite sweet in its own way- Moonlight actually WON! Note- I still haven’t watched the movie but tonight that’s on my agenda.

While I would have generally oohed and aahed over the red carpet garbs and Ryan Gosling, live TV taught me a little something today. You see, Warren Beatty knew that something was wrong when he read Emma Stone’s  name on the card. Was it was the theatre full of talent, the million world viewers or simply unassertiveness that didn’t allow him to speak up despite knowing he was going to make a big big blunder? While we can go on to ridicule this big mistake and write it in the books of cinematic history, we should and we must take a little lesson that tells us to stand up and speak up when we know something is wrong- before you possibly make the biggest mistake of your life! Promise to speak up, ok?!

And also learn to move on. Like the incredible crew of La La Land (even if your heart got broken a lil).

ryan gosling gif la la land

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Monday Musings


With all it’s thrills and surprising reel of events, travelling can be a pain in the ass; especially, when you have a Kenyan passport, a yellow card and unwanted interrogation from the guy behind the immigration desk. For heaven’s sake, after scrutinising a million NRIs, why is it so difficult to comprehend that circa early 1900s, a horde of Indian nationals did build up the courage to travel across the Indian ocean to work and settle in a beautiful country called Kenya. And no, it wasn’t to denounce their love for our motherland, instead I think of it as mass outbreak of a serious case of curious and opportunity (our magnetic pull).

I’m a third generation Gujrati Kenyan whose lineage embodies the history of the Indian diaspora in East Africa. I’m born of the blood that takes pride in merciless dedication, iron-willed faith and unshakable conviction. I’m a Mhindi- a name given to us by the locals which translates into “from the country of India”. This is something I’ve been pondering over a lot, especially since I’m sitting at my parents’ home in Mombasa- my birthplace, my identity.

Despite the mini rant here, I’m not going to bore you with even pretending to have identity issues (thank god). I’m perfectly happy to be brought up the way I was- I know it makes me more tolerate towards people, places and world politics. However, I do wish that I could converse in hindi and kiswahili without giving away my third culture upbringing. Or maybe it makes me different *wink*. While I do face a multitude of obstacles while travelling or trying to renew passports or obtain visas, I feel incredibly lucky to be able to have two culture-rich countries I call home. I might even be adding another destination to this list *fingers crossed*.

For now, while I’m here to get some official work done, I’m also enjoying evening strolls at Mombasa beach (I spent my entire childhood here), culinary advantages of having mum and some serious seafood around, spending time with the parents and basically just chilling (my favourite word when people ask me what I’m upto) till life hands out a chance card that says “Advance to Dubai, if you pass “GO” collect $1000000″.

How chill would that be, right?

Also, here are my thoughts about the other time I visited home.



Monday Musings is a series that delves deep into my current frame of mind- the good, bad and crazy.

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The Cactus is The New Palm

cactus decor trend 2017

When WGSN sends you an email saying “The cactus is the new palm print” your heart does a happy skip because you’ve got your 2017 decor goals on point.

A couple of months back, the Patel family moved to a new address and it’s been a WIP since. We mostly moved all our furniture and decor pieces from our old apartment to the new one, but we’re slowly adding in some pieces=character to fill up the nooks and corners of this beaut of a home. My bedroom turned out exactly as I wanted it- my only demand was ample of “organised” wardrobe space, which Abhay (our architect and bestie) did an ace job at. I have a tendency to go way overboard, so apart from the furniture in my room (which takes up most of the area), I made a conscious *head hurts* decision to keep it minimal with a few statement pieces #adulting. There’s only one corner in my room that had some visual void and I decided to go with creating a small setup of cacti.

My mini cactus obsession started a while back and over time I realised I had a happy little gathering. From cactus candles from my local grocery shop (steal deal) to this cactus lamp that I’m obsessed with, I rounded up all my prickly cuties and voila, I had a decor setup ready in under 5 minutes.

wishing chair cactus dish

I got this adorable ring dish from The Wishing Chair that recently opened shop in Indiranagar next to Toit. It’s a wonderland for anyone whose obsessed with cute decor- I can guarantee you won’t walk out of this shop without spending a few notes. They also have a little cafe that serves up some delicious treats- schedule your next coffee date here. Also, they’ll be able to feed your cactus obsession.

Until next time folks…

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